Scottish Wedding Traditions

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Scottish Wedding Traditions

Scottish Wedding Rings

Traditional Scottish gold wedding bands date back to the 1500's, and are still popular wedding rings today, as are Celtic knotwork engagement and wedding rings.

Traditions in Scotland Before the Wedding Ceremony

Often, before a Scottish bride is married, her mother holds an open house for a traditional "show of presents." Invitations are sent to those who gave wedding gifts to the couple and the wedding gifts are unwrapped and set out for viewing. After the show of presents the bride-to-be is often dressed up and her friends escort her through her town, singing and banging pots and pans, heralding the bride's wedding day.

The groom, meanwhile, is taken out for a stag night on one of the evenings preceding the wedding. The “Stag Night” is meant to be a celebration of the last night of "freedom", and a way of reassuring friends that being married doesn't mean that they are shut out of your life. The groom, like the bride, is dressed up and taken around town by his friends and workmates. There is often a great deal of harmless practical joking, of which the poor groom is the main target. When the night winds down, the groom is sometimes stripped of his clothes and covered in soot, treacle and feathers and left overnight tied to a tree or post. In some rural areas an open lorry is hired and the groom is paraded through his local area with much noise and celebration.

Traditional Scottish Dress

A Scottish bride will usually wear a traditional white or cream wedding gown, and the groom’s party and her father may come to the wedding resplendent in full Highland dress in the traditional clan tartan of his clan. She might wear a horseshoe on her arm for good luck, or a pageboy might deliver one to her as she arrives at the ceremony.

For the bride a universal custom is the 'something old; something new; something borrowed; something blue' - of course the 'something new' can be the bride’s dress! The 'something new' at the wedding can become the 'something old' or ‘something borrowed' at the next generation’s weddings. The bride sometimes wears a blue garter (symbolizing love) which plays a part later at the wedding reception. It was also traditional in some areas for the bride to put a small silver coin in her shoe to bring her good luck.

Something Old

A gift from mother to daughter to start her off for married life, and symbolising the passing on a bit of mother's wisdom.

Something New

A gift symbolising the new start married life represents.

Something borrowed

The idea here is that something is borrowed from a happily married couple in the hope that a little of their martial bliss will rub off on the newlyweds.

Something blue

There are two likely sources for this. Roman women used to border their robes with blue as a sign of modesty, love, and fidelity. Also blue is the colour normally associated with Mary the mother of Jesus who is often used to symbolise steadfast love, purity, and sincerity.

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Traditional outfits can bring a touch of splendour to the ceremony.

It consists of:

Bonnie Prince Charlie jacket and waistcoat, kilt, tartan flashes to match, white hose, gillie brogues, kilt pin, sgian dubh, black belt with buckle, formal sporan with chain strap, wing collar, shirt, black or coloured bow tie, and a piece of lucky heather on the lapel. He also has the option of wearing a fly plaid, which is anchored under the paulette on the shoulder of the jacket and secured by a large plaid brooch.

Bridesmaids may wear whatever the bride has chosen to match her dress and it may include a little tartan accessory. Before 1500 women just wore the best dress that they had, but in 1499 Anne of Brittany wore white. This caught on. Some have interpreted it as a sign of chastity.

Bouquets may include tartan ribbons or bows.

The bagpipes can be used to add atmosphere and grandeur to a wedding. The piper, in full Highland dress, stands at the church door and plays as the guests arrive. Later he leads the couple from the church to the car.

Cutting the cake is a traditional part of the reception and, at a Scottish wedding, the piper may hand his dirk to the couple to use for this ceremony.

After the wedding ceremony it is traditonal for flowers, petals, or pretty paper confetti to be thrown thrown at the departing couple. In some rural areas the couple throw coins to the children who have gathered outside the church to watch. This is called a “scramble”. This is the reason children make a bee-line for local weddings. As the couple leave the ceremony the groom dips his hands into his pockets (or sporran), and throws all his loose change out on the ground for the children to scramble for.

It's a good idea not to do this at the roadside. Church grounds are ideal since diving onto grass is less likely to result in scraped knees, and traffic accidents.

Traditional wedding reception festivities can easily last all night and the newly-wed couple lead off the dancing. Before the evening is finished the bride and groom leave as quietly and secretly as they can and go to a pre -arranged destination for their wedding night - often leaving for the honeymoon the next day. At the end of the evening guests often gather in a circle before leaving and sing "Auld Lang Syne".

Scottish wedding traditions and ideas.

Give a Scottish brooch (called Luckenbooth) as a token of your love or as a betrothal gift. This is usually made of silver and is engraved with two hearts entwined. Some couples pin this on the blanket of their first born for good luck.

Weddings and receptions are sometime held at a Scottish castle if there is a suitable one nearby. For something simpler and less expensive the village hall, an outdoor venue or, for an even more traditional option, the ceremony can be in the house.

Arrange a “Penny Wedding,” in which guests are expected to bring their own food and drinks to the church to celebrate after the ceremony is over.

Rent or buy a kilt for the groom to wear that represents his clan.

Exchange rings with Celtic knotwork designs instead of plain gold wedding bands. Men wearing wedding rings is more common today than in the past.The reason for wearing the rings on the third finger is down to the Romans again. They believed that the vein on this finger ran directly to the heart, and so a symbol of your wedding pledge was thought to be bound to love and life itself.

Hire a bagpiper to play during the wedding party’s entrance and departure.

Arrange for a ceilidh band for Highland dancing at your reception.

Select Scottish music for the ceremony and celebrations afterwards.

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Where Can I Marry?

Remember that there is a 14-day waiting period after you give notice to your parish about your plans to marry. These are called the marriage banns.

Civil Ceremonies can take place in a Register Office during working hours and, due to a recent change in the Scottish law, in any place that is agreeable for both.

Religious Ceremonies may be held at any time or place agreeable to a licensed celebrant. As long as the minister agrees that a venue is suitable and is willing to conduct the service, all possibilities are available!

(The difference between Scotland and the rest of the U.K. is that, in Scotland, it is the person who conducts the service and not the building that is licensed to hold weddings).

What happens if I don’t live in Scotland?

There are no prior residency requirements for marriage in Scotland. It is, however, necessary to observe the minimum fifteen days notice and the Marriage Schedule has to be collected in person before a religious ceremony.

When one party lives in Scotland and the other in England or Wales, there is no need for the party living outside Scotland to travel to Scotland prior to the marriage. It is possible for notice to be given to the English or Welsh Superintendent Registrar of the district in which they live. The notices issued in England and Wales are recognised in Scotland.

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Old Scottish Wedding Traditions

Wedding customs have changed dramatically over the years. Some parts of weddings seem steeped in tradition whilst you will be glad to hear of some customs which have died out over the years!

On Barra, it was traditional to sprinkle water on the marriage bed and bless it. In Mull, it was customary that the young couple sleep in a barn for their first night and in Lewis they lived for a week with the bride's parents before going to their own home.

Celtic practices were part of ceremonies for many hundreds of years and had roots in pagan rituals. Tying the knot originated from the bride and groom ripping their wedding plaids (clan tartans) and tying the two strips together as a symbol of the unity of the two families.

According to Gaelic tradition it is unlucky to marry in the month of May or during a waning moon.

In Aberdeenshire even now the 'blackening' is a ritual performed with great relish. The engaged couple are captured one night by so called 'friends' and covered with foul substances such as treacle, feathers, soot etc and then paraded around the village and usually the pubs. It takes days to wash clean!

Tradition says sew a hair onto the hem of a wedding dress for luck, or let a drop of blood fall onto an inner seam. The bride must never try on a complicated dress in advance of her wedding day. To facilitate this tradition a small section of the hem is left unsewn by the dressmaker until the last moment.

The bride, when she leaves home for the last time as a single girl, should step out of the house with her right foot for luck.

Penny Bridal or Silver Bridal

These festivities, also known as Penny Weddings, were renowned for feasting, drinking, dancing and fighting and were enjoyed by all except the clergy - who disapproved of such raucous behaviour. Gifts were made to the newly weds towards the cost of the wedding feast and the celebrations started on the eve of the wedding with singing, toasts and the ceremony of ‘feet washing’.

Feet washing

A tub of water was placed in the best room, in which the bride placed her feet, her female friends then gathered around to help wash them. A wedding ring from a happily married woman was previously placed in the tub and it was believed that whoever found the ring would be the next to get married.

The men folk were outside the door making jokes and attempting to watch through the doorway. The bridegroom was then seized by the women and made to sit at the tub. His legs were none too gently daubed with soot, ashes and cinders - quite a painful procedure!

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The Wedding Procession

The following day the bridal party made their way to the church, flower petals being thrown in front of the bride, but if they encountered a funeral or a pig on the way, it was considered bad luck and they would return home and set out again. The first person they encountered was called the first foot and would be given a coin and a drink of whisky by the bride. He would then have to accompany the bridal party for one mile before being allowed to continue on his way.

The Highland custom of Creeling the bridegroom

A large basket or ‘creel’, was filled with stones and tied to the bridegroom’s back. He then had to carry it around the entire town unless his bride agreed to kiss him. Only if she did, would his friends allow him to escape from the ‘creeling’ otherwise he had to continue until he had completed the circuit of the town.

Handfasting

In the eighteenth century the custom of handfasting was observed. A couple would live together for a year and a day, at which time they could decide whether to part or make a lifelong commitment. It was considered more important for the bride to be experienced and fertile than to be a virgin.

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Wedding traditions still in use in Scotland and in the UK.

Carrying the bride over the threshold:

This was done to protect the bride from any evil spirits which may be hiding beneath the threshold. The groom would carry his beautiful bride to safety and happiness so they could start their new lives together.

Honeymoon:

This was a chance for the new couple to hide from family and friends for a period of time.

Tying shoes to the bumper of the car:

Represents the symbolism and power of shoes in ancient times. Egyptians would exchange sandals when they exchanged goods, so when the father of the bride gave his daughter to the groom, he would also give the brides sandals to show that she now belonged to the groom. In Anglo-Saxon times, the groom would tap the heel of the bride's shoe to show his authority over her. In later times, people would throw shoes at the couple. Now folks just tie shoes to the couple's car.

The taking of each others right hand:

The open right hand is a symbol of strength, resource and purpose. The coming together of both right hands is a symbol that both the bride and the groom can depend on each other and the resources that each brings to the marriage. It also represents the merger of their lives together into one.

Tie the knot:

This wonderful expression originated from Roman times when the bride wore a girdle that was tied in knots which the groom had the fun of untying. As a side note, this phrase can also refer to the tying of the knot in handfasting ceremonies, which were often performed without the benefit of a clergy.

Veil:

Originated with arranged marriages. In these, the groom's family informed him that he was to marry, but they very rarely let him see the bride. After all, if the groom didn't like the bride's looks, he might not agree to the marriage. With this in mind, the father of the bride gave the bride away to the groom who then lifted the veil to see his wife of all eternity for the first time.

Wedding cake:

Like most rituals handed down through the ages, a wedding wouldn't be complete without fertility symbols, like the wedding cake. Ancient Romans would bake a cake made of wheat or barley and break it over the bride's head as a symbol of her fertility. Over time, it became traditional to stack several cakes on top of one another. The bride and groom would then be charged to kiss over this tower without knocking it over. If they were successful, a lifetime of good fortune was certain for the new couple. Finally, during the reign of King Charles II of England, it became customary for such a cake to be iced with sugar.

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Leap year proposals:

The right of every women to propose on 29th February each leap year, goes back many hundreds of years to when the leap year day had no recognition in English law (the day was 'leapt over' and ignored, hence the term 'leap year'). It was considered, therefore, that as the day had no legal status, it was reasonable to assume that traditions also had no status. Consequently, women who were concerned about being 'left on the shelf' took advantage of this anomaly and proposed to the man they wished to marry.

It was also thought that since the leap year day corrected the discrepancy between the calendar year of 365 days and the time taken for the Earth to complete one orbit of the sun (365 days and 6 hours), it was an opportunity for women to correct a tradition that was one-sided and unjust.

For those wishing to take advantage of this ancient tradition, you will have to wait until February 29th 2008!

Throwing Confetti:

Throwing confetti over newly weds originated from the ancient pagan rite of showering the happy couple with grain to wish upon them a 'fruitful' union. Pagans believed that the fertility of the seeds would be transferred to the couple on whom they fell. The throwing of rice has the same symbolic meaning.

The word confetti has the same root as the word confectionery in Italian and was used to describe 'sweetmeats' that is, grain and nuts coated in sugar that were thrown over newly weds for the same pagan reason. In recent years, small pieces of colored paper have replaced sweetmeats, grain and nuts as an inexpensive substitute but the use of the word confetti has remained.

Carrying A Bride Over The Threshold:

The Romans believed that it was unlucky if the bride tripped on entering the house for the first time. So they arranged for several members of the bridal party to carry her over the threashold. Nowadays the groom is expected to do the job himself.

Grey Horses:

All the best bridal carriages used to be pulled by grey horses and it is still considered good luck to see a grey horse on the way to the church.

Lucky Horse Shoes:

Horseshoes have always been lucky. There is a nice story about the devil asking a blacksmith to shoe his single hoof. When the blacksmith recognised his customer he carried out the job as painfully as possible until the devil roared for mercy. He was released on condition that he would never enter a place where a horseshoe was displayed. A horse shoe carried by the bride is considered a symbol of fertility.

Wedding Bells:

A peal of bells as the bridal couple leave the church is one of the oldest traditions. Before the days of widespread literacy and newspapers this was how the local people knew a wedding had taken place. The sound of bells was also said to drive out evil spirits.

Lucky Chimney Sweep:

Brides still consider it fortunate if they pass a chimney-sweep on the way to the wedding as the old fashioned soot-covered sweep had magical associations with the family and hearth - the heart of the home.

Bad luck omen:

It is bad luck for the bride to look in the mirror wearing her complete outfit before her wedding day - old beliefs say that part of yourself goes into the reflection and therefore, the bride would not be giving all of herself to her new husband

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Looking Ahead:

Particular wedding anniversaries have become associated with particular types of gifts. Although in many cases the choice of gift now has little connection with the original anniversary present, it's still fun to look at the full list.

1st Cotton
2nd Paper
3rd Leather
4th Fruit, Flowers
5th Wood
6th Sugar
7th Wool, Copper
8th Bronze, Pottery
9th Pottery, Willow
10th Tin
11th Steel
12th Silk, Linen
13th Lace
14th Ivory
15th Crystal
20th China
25th Silver
30th Pearl
35th Coral
40th Ruby
45th Sapphire
50th Gold
55th Emerald
60th Diamond
70th Platinum

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[ladyoftheloch]

wow, I just finished reading that and there was I lot I didn't know. Some of the stuff on there was pretty cool, like the scramble, the horseshoe, etc... I also didn't know why the third finger for the ring, but I don know. Thanks for that information...was interesting!

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You're welcome! I love these sort of information. Traditions are wonderful (not only scottish) and should be kept more or less.